Child-birth preparation tips
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We participated in a few presentations on what to expect from the delivery process. Following are my (incomplete) notes from them.
Session 1 #
- Contractions:
- True: Last longer, become stronger over time.
- Don’t stop when you change your activity.
- Duration: 1 minute long.
- Frequency: Start every 3 minutes.
- Apps available.
- Warm up: No regular pattern, lose intensity over time.
- Not everyone feels them.
- True: Last longer, become stronger over time.
- How labor starts:
- 10%: water breaks.
- Both gush or trickle of fluids possible. Also, if dampness arrives multiple times.
- Even if no contractions, that is a sign of labor.
- Clear or yellowish. They’ll ask for color.
- Shouldn’t have any odor.
- 90%: contractions.
- 10%: water breaks.
- Stages:
- 1st stage:
- 1st: early labor.
- Emotions: happy, excited.
- Contractions are 5-30 minutes apart, ~30 seconds long. So, mild.
- You’ll have to wait for ~8 hours. So, distractions are important.
- Sleep, rest and hydrate.
- 1st: active labor.
- 45-60 seconds, 3-5 minutes apart.
- Emotions: serious, focused.
- Might not automatically know when to unload bladder - so, keep doing that.
- Changing positions may help.
- Out of bed as much as possible.
- Important: relaxation, rhythm & ritual.
- Didn’t understand. Check videos by Penny Simpkin.
- When to go to the hospital: 511 rule. 5 minutes apart, 1 minute each, going on for 1 hour.
- Go sooner if:
- Vomit.
- Unable to walk or talk through contractions.
- Vaginal bleeding.
- Go sooner if:
- 1st: transition.
- ~30 minutes.
- Intense. Strong contractions.
- 1st: early labor.
- 2nd stage:
- Time to push!
- 4th stage: first few hours after birth.
- Baby comes out fully fed.
- Born in quiet alert state.
- 1st stage:
- Epidural:
- Pain medication and takes ~15 minutes to relieve pain.
- Numbs lower part of the body.
- Can get whenever you ask - possibly during active labor state.
- Ensure fetal monitoring is always on, if going this route.
- No affect on baby or mother’s mental state.
- Pain medication and takes ~15 minutes to relieve pain.
- Ensure hospital has forwarded to pediatrician.
- Cesarean birth:
- Only 1% urgent. Others are planned.
- To do:
- Pack a hospital bag.
- Make a postpartum plan.
Session 2 #
- Essentials:
- Diapering:
- Diapers:
- Hospitals provide for use there.
- Disposable diapers.
- Diaper wetness barriers:
- Probably use when needed.
- Diaper rash cream: zinc oxide or something. Put thin layer and then cover with barrier.
- Wipes/wash cloth.
- Go front to back.
- Diapers:
- Clothing:
- Cutest size: only last for 3 months.
- Keep tags so that you can exchange.
- Wash before use but not right after you buy them (otherwise you won’t be able to return them later).
- Dye and fragrance free detergent.
- Sleeper gown.
- Swaddle blanket: pre-made useful.
- White noise machine: soothes the baby and good for routine sleep.
- Baby loves routine which can let them know it’s time to go to sleep.
- Baby gear:
- Things get recalled all the time, so fill registration form and mail it in.
- Safe place for baby to sleep:
- Firm and flat surface.
- Don’t let them sleep in a sitting device. Also, don’t leave them there for >20 minutes if awake.
- Nail clipper.
- Cut when asleep.
- Nasal aspirator maybe.
- Bathing stuff:
- Tub: there are some that go over sinks.
- Baby wash/lotion: zero/low fragrance. Can use a regular towel but might have to create a hood.
- Use temperature to check bath water temperature: 95 to 100 Fahrenheit.
- 1-3 inches of water.
- Don’t leave baby in water even for a second. Be prepared beforehand or take baby with you if you have to get some stuff.
- Diapering:
- At home:
- Be careful about the umbilical cord.
- Sponge bath until this is gone. 2-3 times a week.
- 1 diaper on 1st day, 2 on 2nd etc. until 7-8th day. ~6-8 diapers a day.
- Track because that gives an idea on whether the baby is getting sufficiently fed.
- Feed every 2.5 to 3 hours on average.
- Good time to change diaper around this.
- Don’t wait for them to cry to feed.
- Good sign they are hungry if they turn their head towards someone’s breasts.
- Make silly faces and talk about random things.
- They cry if:
- Hungry.
- Too cold.
- Not if they are too hot. So, be careful.
- In worst case, they can cry for ~5 hours!
- Be careful about the umbilical cord.
Session 3 #
- Fevers are very important for the first 3 months, especially first 1.
- First vaccination after 2 months, so won’t have enough immunity until then.
- Recommended books:
- Heading Home With Your Newborn.
- The Happiest Baby on the Block.
- Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child.
- Resources: